RITUALS FOR BUSY RELATIONSHIPS

Leana Farrugia
May 13
4 min read

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50 Relationship Rituals to Keep the Spark (and Sanity) Alive

Let’s be honest — relationships are beautiful, messy, hilarious, and occasionally held together by nothing more than shared memes and the sacred art of tag-teaming bedtime with the kids.

In the blur of everyday life — work, laundry piles, missed texts, and that mysterious smell in the fridge — connection can quietly slide to the bottom of the to-do list. But love isn’t something you “set and forget” like your slow cooker. It needs fuel. Reconnection. A few inside jokes and the occasional eyebrow-raising moment over candlelight.

That’s where relationship rituals come in.

Not the stiff, time-consuming kind. We’re talking real, doable, sometimes silly and surprisingly powerful habits that help couples stay close, curious, and maybe even a little spicy. Think of them as emotional multivitamins — tiny but mighty.

Whether you’re newly in love, years deep into shared mortgage territory, or somewhere in between, this list of 50 rituals is your permission slip to infuse your relationship with more intention, intimacy, and fun (without needing a couples retreat in Bali).

So grab your partner, a cup of something warm (or bubbly), and let’s dive into rituals that reconnect you — heart, soul, and maybe even hips ;)

💖 Daily Connection Rituals

Morning cuddle time before getting out of bed.
Send a good morning text if you're apart.
Share a coffee or tea together in silence — no phones.
A 10-second kiss before one of you leaves the house.
Give each other a hand massage while watching TV.
Cook or prep a meal together at least once a day.
Dance to one song together at home — barefoot and playful.
Ask “How’s your heart today?” instead of “How was your day?”
Go to bed at the same time at least a few nights a week.
Say one thing you appreciated about them that day.

💌 Weekly Bonding Rituals

Create a “Sunday night check-in” — talk about feelings, logistics, or plans.
Take turns planning a weekly date night — surprise or themed.
Grocery shop together — find as many sexual puns as possible.
Watch your “couple show” together, no distractions.
Cook a new recipe or cultural dish together.
Try a couples yoga or stretch session on Sunday morning.
Play a board game or card game together once a week.
Run a bath for each other with candles and music.
Create a shared playlist and add new songs each week.
Go for a walk together with no phones, even just 15 minutes.

✨ Monthly Rituals

Plan a mini adventure or day trip together.
Write love notes or letters and exchange them on the 1st of each month.
Review your dreams or goals over a drink or brunch.
Declutter one area of your home together — light + symbolic.
Try something new together — a new class, dance style, or cuisine.
Have a “no screen” date night — candles only, slow music, present time.
Book a couples massage or DIY spa night at home.
Make a “monthly photo collage” on your phone to relive good moments.
Give each other a themed gift with a $10 limit.
Write a shared vision for your relationship and revisit it monthly.

🎉 Seasonal or Occasion-Based

Celebrate your "monthaversary" with something small and symbolic.
Make seasonal bucket lists — winter snugs, summer hikes, autumn fires.
Decorate the house together for the season — even if it's just candles.
Create a couple tradition for birthdays (e.g. handwritten notes + slow morning).
Celebrate your first date anniversary with a nostalgic date reenactment.
Choose a word or intention for each season to embody as a couple.
Host a dinner party or games night together every few months.
Paint a Canvas together - but replace canvas with your bodies.

💘 Intimate & Romantic

Light a candle before love-making to signal connection time.
Take turns giving each other 5-minute massages each week.
Create a “sensual ritual night” once a month with music, oils, and no pressure.
Explore a new love language practice together — like trying new words of affirmation.
Read an erotic or romantic story together aloud in bed.
Create a “safe word” to deepen vulnerability during hard talks.
Do a 60-second eye gaze before or after intimacy.
Create a sacred space for love — a “love altar” or just a tray with meaningful objects.

🧡 Playful & Cute

Leave sticky notes around the house with silly or sweet messages.
Create a secret handshake (yes, adults can too!).
Have a “pajama day” together with no obligations.
Get a polaroid camera and take a silly dress up photo each year together — and add to a scrapbook
An end of week pillow fight but every time you hit your partner you give them a compliment - then kiss and cuddle of course!

Got another ritual you and your partner have? Share it in the comments below!